September 19, 2016



I have now come to realize that it is quite difficult maintaining a blog. Not because it is hard, because lets face it, I can really say whatever I want, but because it is so easy to let other things get in the way.

In my experience…something else always seems to get in the way of… everything. If something does not make me feel ‘better’ in the moment, it is so easy to ignore doing it. That seems to be the funny thing about life. We are selfish in order to make ourselves more happy but the truth is our selfishness makes us more miserable. Its tragic. But true.

I look at my own life and I see how so much of it has just happened. I just happened to fall into this routine, I just happened to make these friends, I just happened to go to this church or school, I just happened to become the person I am. In response to this, I was challenged the other day to consider what my goals were for the next five years. I, of course (because I am a ridiculous achiever), always have career and education goals, but this challenge was different. This one asked me to set a five year character goal. A character goal I responded? I am a good person! (this self statement was followed by laughter because lets face it.. we could all improve in some area). And so I was left to think about, who did I really want to be in 5 years?

You see, if you purpose something to happen, set a goal and follow it, things don’t just happen. You make them happen. You decide you want to buy a house in 5 years, you work towards it, you get it. We do this all the time. We make things happen that we want. But do we do this in the areas that really matter? Friends, relationships, character, and our mental health. Or do we let who we are happen by accident?

You wake up everyday and feel like the world is out to get you. You feel like stress is a burden always weighing you down. It feels as if you don’t have any hope. You can’t handle facing your emotions or that thing in the past you are always running from. Your life is a reaction to the past. And I wonder how purposeful you are fighting against these pitfalls? We seem to be a very reactionary culture. Did you know that emotions are very much like the signals on your car dashboard? They warn you when something is wrong or needs attention. Depression tells you you have worn yourself out. Anger tells you there is something you are suppressing. And when we feel these overwhelming emotions we pay attention, but what if we prevented them?

What if, instead of being reactionary or letting life accidentally happen, we purposed to become healthy and whole, in every way. Its hard… you don’t have enough time…. I know, I feel it, I get it, but I also know it is worth it.

So here is my point of this blog. Be purposeful. Try mindfulness, quiet time, prayer, exercise. Take two minutes. Set the alarm clock five minutes early and do a tiny mindfulness exercise before you get out of bed. After even a few weeks, you will actually feel better.

The irony of life is: that which we tend to avoid, actually is what will make us better, in every way.

If you have spaced out during this long ranting blog pay attention now, I will summarize: Our brains form connections depending on what we think about. We go towards what we look at. So try, for even a little while, being purposeful in what you are looking at. Give it a shot. See where it leads you.

Carissa